At almost 70 I find myself recognizing more and more of what has been conditioned underneath my emotions. The cause, if you will, of my unwanted behaviors.
Once I obtained the age of reason (the ability to decide for myself) I recognized it wasn't all about what happened to me, but that it was actually an allowing I permitted because of my underlying childhood fears that I hid, repressed, and denied.
These shadows no longer served me. It was as if I allowed them to remain and grow well beyond their childhood necessity for safety, instead of taking steps, doing the work, to improve my behavior and my life.