Change begins with a slight shift in your ‘tude

Or Not

Of all the possible ‘tudes available to us for consideration, there is one in particular that helped me move into alignment with who I really am.

“Tudes you say? Yeah, you know words like beatitude, vicissitude, altitude, latitude, aptitude and of course solitude. There are others, of course, magnitude, multitude, gratitude, amplitude, and fortitude.

No, I am not referring to any of these aforementioned ‘tudes. Even though all of them could have had life-changing implications there is one ‘tude that registers more profoundly on the scale of impact in my life. It has been right in front of my face every moment of every day.

Yep, I’m referring to ATTITUDE! It’s a word that was so overused that it became a pariah for people, in their personal and professional lives. I remember a time when Human Resource professionals had to extract it from their manuals because no one could define what it was and, of course, it WAS being abused as a tool to take disciplinary action when everything else failed.

Then there was the proverbial need for an attitude adjustment, representing that moment in time when a spouse or significant other needed to have the boom lowered on them because they were just…OOC. (out of control)

I can’t tell you how many times I recall being told or hearing in the presence of others, “son, you better change your attitude…or else!” Okay, that may have gotten my attention for the moment, but what I am going to offer here in this brief communication is my own account of what a conscious change in attitude did for me.

Attitude: — a settled way of thinking or feeling about someone or something, typically one that is reflected in a person’s behavior.

I’m not sure about this definition really, as much as mine was a settled way of thinking that was reflected in my behavior, I found it more unsettling than settling, especially when I went to change it. Heck, I had been self-deprecating for so long it just seemed natural and because I didn’t have a very good view of myself, my view of others was, at times, pretty unsightly.

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Oh, there were flashes of sanity interspersed throughout my life but every year that passed cried out for a change. It wasn’t until the last and final straw appeared that the real work of living began. Hey, changing your “tude may just be “a decision” as many would like to have us believe, but when you do decide to do something of value for yourself, there is work. I can tell you it is worth it!

Actually, if I were honest, (notice I said if I were honest, as if I had a desire to be other than truthful. Holy moly, where am I going here?) I would say changing my ‘tude had more to do with examining my beliefs and then asking myself how they are serving me. The obvious need for a change in behavior indicated that the beliefs I had developed over the years weren’t serving me very well.

Here’s an example of changing a ‘tude that may resonate with some of you. I have always wanted to write. My behavior of saying it, but not actually doing it, indicated that there was an obstacle in my way. (Frankly, there were several, but one will be enough to illustrate my point) I wanted to write but because my belief was that I sucked as a student (true story) that I was not worthy and my time might be better spent doing other things. My behavior aligned with my underlying belief of inadequacy. Although I wanted to write, I didn’t believe I could succeed so I told myself… “what’s the use?”

In order to do what brought and brings me joy, I needed an adjustment to my attitude. But first, I needed to question the underlying belief. When I did, that small shift began to take place in my attitude, resulting in different behavior. That small shift had incredible implications in my life. I found out I could do what I thought was only thinkable. I began to take actions that supported my dreams.

Friends, my decision to change my ‘tude, towards myself and subsequently toward others IS changing my life. Right here, right now. I began to look at the resources I do have, ask for the ones I want to move forward and leave the feeling of lack behind. Simply, I am changing what I believe in and working to insert prosperous thoughts and habits where once there were only wishes!

I’d like to say more, but I gotta go! Working on my public speaking next! I would love to hear from you, about the changes you’ve made in your beliefs and ‘Tudes!

Blessings to all of you! Never give up! If I can do it, anyone can!


A believer in Lifelong Learning and Collaborative Wisdom, remembering Who I AM through essay, story, and poetry. Listening for narratives that nurture Life.

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