The next frontier in personal development

What if what you wanted was already present in a form that you could not now recognize? My guess is, there would more than likely be some who might receive this with great skepticism, some who might understand the concept intellectually, and still others who have already experienced the magic of this realization.

I suppose that many of you have seen or known of the construction of homes or other building types that have used items from previous structures.

It isn’t uncommon, even today, that homes are remodeled using lumber from old barns, for example. Previously used hardware is also used to alter the essence of reconstruction.

I am using this analogy to illustrate the point that designing and building something new in our lives can be similar to remodeling a home.

Where do the materials come from in the example above? They came from something that already existed. When incorporated into a new design these same materials are cleaned up, reshaped and reused, often in an entirely different way than the original structure, but they provide a more unique essence in the new one. Architects creatively use materials in designs that already exist but aren’t employed until the design is complete, submitted, discussed, and accepted.

This concept is similar to how I view life architecture. We become different, we change, and we navigate new territory in our lives by using what we already have in new and different ways. So many of us, I believe, see ourselves through filters that, if not modified, keep us from developing into what we want to be, do, and have. We are distracted by everyday living, old habits and old ways of thinking that prevent us from using the most valuable elements of who we already are to become that which we know we can be.

From personal experience, I knew that I could be virtually anything I wanted to be, but in my college years, I was distracted by emotional immaturity and other life events like the death of my father. Those distractions lasted what seemed to be nearly a lifetime. When my distractions were recognized as roadblocks years later I was able to move forward in a new and more positive life framework. I was able to dismantle old habits and reconstruct a newer version of me by replacing them with gifts that already existed within me, but rarely used or acknowledged,

Granted, rebuilding a life may not seem easy, and often it isn’t, but using life architecture to help see the process of rebuilding in an entirely different perspective aids in finding existing resources that may have been forgotten and combining them with other existing resources to create a beautiful new life.

I would like to say that there is nothing new here, no groundbreaking research or observations from the newest of Gurus. But I do believe there are possibilities that haven’t been explored yet and there are structures that are not being employed on a daily basis that confirm that life architecture can serve as a vehicle for change and personal development.

Here are three thoughts to aid in the use of life architecture as a means of creating a new paradigm from an old existence.

1Become aware of the self — Self-examination is incredibly important in the discovery of gifts that may already be present within. It is vital to understand who you really are and what you really want. A common journal inventory over time can reveal much about yourself that you would otherwise overlook.

2 Ally and connect — with a mentor, coach or other guides whom you respect and with whom you can have honest, open, vulnerable, and authentic communication. Solicit their feedback, challenge yourself to consider what you may hear that is different. Look for synchronicities that may lead you to alternatives you may not have considered before.

3 Know that the wisdom you seek is all ready and already present within you. This may be difficult at first. Belief is tantamount to change. You can verify this as you study and dialog with others. You may be the subject of your interest but others are seeking change as you are and when deep, mutually beneficial conversations take place this wisdom emerges. Pay attention to what you say and what you hear. Everything matters!

The new frontier of life architecture has taught me to do as this picture suggests…REDEFINE POSSIBLE!

How I get wherever it is I want to go starts with this simple question: What’s possible now?

My circumstances don’t matter, they will change whether I want them to or not.

My resources will change form time to time. What doesn't change is my belief in myself. And as I learned from Tony Robbins, “people don’t fail because of a lack of resources, they fail because of a lack of resourcefulness.”

I have bought into the concept that I/we are my/our greatest resource. If that’s true, I ask myself, “What’s possible now?”

I am grateful for you, who read my work. You could have chosen to be anywhere else at this moment in time but you chose to be here with me. That is a union I cherish. Life architecture brought me to this point as I continually press on toward new possibilities through a paradigm that believes in change, goodness, and connection.

May Peace and Blessings always be with you!

A believer in Lifelong Learning and Collaborative Wisdom, remembering Who I AM through essay, story, and poetry. Listening for narratives that nurture Life.

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