Today is a new day…for me, for you.
I made a choice after many years of searching and researching how to live the life I wanted. Okay, so to you, this may not be rocket science, but to me, it’s a big deal. Making the decision to change my vocabulary actually came from the decision to change my life. This brief essay and those that will follow are my attempts at documenting the steps I took and the results I achieved. It is one way of many to change and ultimately begin anew.
You Never Change Things By Fighting The Existing Reality. To Change Something, Build A New Model That Makes The Existing Model Obsolete.- Buckminster Fuller
My plan is to create a magnificent adventure into the unknown, for this is the only place from which I can conceive new thoughts, new habits, and a new life.
My life has been a good one in so many ways. I am healthy. I have food, shelter, and companionship. I am grateful for each of these necessities and yet, I desire to live my life to its fullest. So, there are a few changes I have made in the past 6 years, all of which led me to today. Those changes are important enough for me to list them here before I go on.
Change #1 — In December of 2014, I attended a transformational weekend with The ManKind Project. My experience in life to that point was mediocre and unfulfilling. Though I was moderately successful and nearing retirement, my personal life left a lot to be desired and I was looking for transformation. As a result of that weekend, (Titled — the New Warrior Training Adventure) my membership in the organization, the subsequent leadership training, and the many incredible relationships I’ve developed with men, my life began to change. The self-examination and support led me to internal places I believe I would not have been able to reach or endure on my own. Perhaps most importantly was the realization that I needed a mission and a way to find it. The rest is becoming history. (My mission is to co-create a world of peace, joy, and fulfillment by sharing life-giving perspectives)
Change #2 — I made a decision to change from the old Bruce Noll to the new Bruce Noll. I decided that the old way of living no longer served me or the people in my world. They were hard changes. Divorce, retirement, and working on my new life’s work, which at that time I only had a brief glimmer of hope for its manifestation. But I held on to it. I still do. There was still more to come.
Change #3 — I changed my vocabulary. Yes, I changed what I said, to others and more importantly to myself. This started a few years ago when a mentor of mine suggested that I should consider reciting Ho’opono’pono. Thank you Vanice Toassa for your explanation here: https://medium.com/@vanicetoassa/hooponopono-what-it-is-how-it-works-benefits-and-more-b3fe5f3031e5#:~:text=To%20put%20ho'oponopono%20into,I%20love%20you. This practice continues today in my life. I also began to use a gratitude meditation from Brother David Steindl-Rast found here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3Zl9puhwiyw
Another vital part of the decision to change my vocabulary came from my practice of “The 4 Agreements” by Don Miguel Ruiz. Particularly the 1st Agreement to “Be Impeccable With Your Word.” Though I cannot yet claim mastery, I am closer now than ever and I am grateful for the awareness the book brought to me.
And lastly, the science and research by Dr. Joe Dispenza helped me realize the time was now to take the leap into remembering the future. He said, “you can learn and change in a state of pain and suffering or you can learn and change in a state of joy and inspiration.” That was it, I had heard enough. The time is now. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XbGj4D-ATH8
This is my decision: to speak only words that are peaceful, joyful, and fulfilling to me and to those with whom I come into contact. The words I choose are intended to be inspirational, encouraging, honest, authentic and in alignment with the values of my mission.
If this message resonates with you please feel free to contact me at Bruce.Noll@yahoo.com — I am happy to correspond with you. If you have a story about transformation, I would like to hear it.