One way to grow into your higher self

“Sadness is but a wall between two gardens.” — Kahlil Gibran

I appreciate the paradox and metaphor of the wall between two gardens. I have often said that joy and sadness sit together back to back and in between them is the life I live.

I recently came to the idea, through the personal work I have been doing that running from those moments of pain is no longer working for me. The more I ran away the closer the object of my agony approached me.

I finally realized that only by addressing the origin of the wound, reaching inside and actually touching the “pain body” as Eckhardt Tolle calls it, could I begin to heal.

This change has been hard, a work in progress. The damage I have done lives in me energetically and is released in the measure with which I face it. The shame lessened, the guilt is slowly diminishing and the pain subsiding. I now recognize that I am blessed when acknowledging that my happiness is enhanced as I sit in the sorrow of its paradox or as Carl Jung has said, “The word ‘happy’ would lose its meaning if it were not balanced by sadness.”

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Not all wounds can be seen and many cannot be healed unless the appropriate remedy is applied. A wound that is left open can fester, become infected and permanently damage its host. This metaphor is applicable to physical and emotional trauma. I have heard it said that some emotional or psychic trauma never fully heals.

Compassion and forgiveness have led me to see that sitting with the stimulus that caused the pain is one way of coping with its presence. If I resist, the sadness continues. If I allow myself to be aware of the presence of sadness, to notice it in its fullness, I find an understanding that mysteriously brings me some peace. Ultimately, this concession lessens the negative influence on my being.

Is this the only answer? No! Does it always work? I can’t say, yet I know that sitting with my sadnesses has brought me closer to the wholeness I desire.

May Peace always be with you!

A believer in Lifelong Learning and Collaborative Wisdom, remembering Who I AM through essay, story, and poetry. Listening for narratives that nurture Life.

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