I didn’t have a real plan for what I was going to do with myself after I retired in October of 2017. Sure, I had a ton of idea’s, some of which I had tested prior to my retirement, all of which were lukewarm at best.
I always knew that I would have to return to work because of the decisions I had made earlier in my life to take chances and be willing to accept the consequences of those decisions. Though living the risky life was fun at times I am now faced with the dilemma of how I survive above the poverty level, if that is what I choose to do. After all, it still is my decision.
All that being said, I am still investigating my future and the last 18 months has been a revelation for me. Much has changed in my life since my retirement, including a divorce (while I still live with my now ex-wife) a major shift in my perspective about how I live, how I want to live…and why.
I have made no bones about my desire to use the rather ordinary nature of my life as an example to others that rags to riches stories aren’t necessary to be successful or to enjoy the life we are given. In that pursuit, I am developing a short course on how to build a life that matters. I believe there are so many people that were in or are in the same boat as I am, for whatever reason, and it is my desire to make something of my own life by serving them. I’m offering them an opportunity to see themselves in an entirely different way than they would see themselves if they used the “Wall Street” model of success. You know, the one that says you have to look like this or be like that or work your ass off and give your life away to keep up with the Jones’. (I know it’s an old cliche, but it fits here for me)
So, in my search for information and support for my new life, I began to do what was unnatural for me up until a few years ago, and that is, I began to ask hard questions of myself. Questions that required some deep soul searching to answer.
In the process of developing the questions I most wanted to be answered, I found questions that I couldn’t answer, like “what do I really want?” There are coaches who would say “you’re never gonna get there if you don’t know what you want,” but that never helped me determine what I wanted. That only posed an unanswerable question. So my search continued!
Frankly, it sucks to have headed down so many roads over my lifetime(again, they were my decision) and not meet with the kind of success that I had drilled into my head by someone else. (still my decision to accept it from them)
AND, I am incredibly grateful that I have come to know that the roadblocks aren’t stopping points or obstacles, but road signs that indicate a change in the timing of the use of that particular path or an encouragement to discover a new or different path. I see them now as welcomed perspectives as opposed to my old way of thinking that saw them as immovable roadblocks.
The primary shift that has occurred in my thinking about even asking myself these 3 questions or any other questions that may arise for that matter is I don’t have to know the answer. The shift is that I trust the universe to guide me knowing there is a higher good associated with the spirit of the universe than there is in listening to my ego.
These are the questions I am asking myself. You can try them on for size or use them as models for similar questions for yourself. Remember the shift in your perspective comes first, being open to possibilities. Here’s an affirmation that came from U.S. Anderson’s book entitled “Three Magic Words” — “You can either be a host to God or a hostage to your ego.” (please note here that I am referring to however you view God) With that in mind, let’s begin the questioning:
What would happen if the answers to the questions I presented provided benefits to myself and others far beyond what I can imagine?
What would the future look like for me if I removed all limitations to my expansion?
What would my life look like if I was in 100% alignment with my higher power?
What I have learned through the answers to these questions is that I have an inner teacher. This teacher has always been with me and is deeply embedded in me and connected to my heart. When I ask my teacher these questions and trust that the answers are coming from a place of love, I am assured that good will come from whatever action I take as a result of listening and awareness.
I also believe that whatever answers are given to me can be used reliably for two purposes. 1) to lead me to other questions that might be necessary to determine additional possibilities and 2) for clarity.
This practice of questioning the universe and asking for help in obtaining answers about how I live my life has led to the development of many more useful questions, questions that are necessary for me to answer before, during or after actions that I might take. The cool part is that I trust the results that come as a result of the answers given to my questions. They are answers from a reliable and trusted source. Do I have some scientific data that proves all that I say here? No. That is not necessary for me as I am in a place of confidence that I have never experienced before and…that is one of the results of my questioning.
There are growing bodies of work from credible sources in the fields of healing, positive psychology, and so many others. People like Dr. Bruce Lipton, Dr. Joe Dispenza, Dr. Maritn Seligman, Greg Braden, and so many others are prominently positioned to record and communicate the accumulating data about the intersection and interaction of the sciences of the mind, the heart, and Spirit. They will continue to do so and expand as others begin to relinquish the ego as the only source for information and action.
Thank you for your time and I hope you will ask yourself a few new questions, and of course, be open to new possibilities!