Today I was with my male friends in a circle which is a fairly regular event for us. We sit together to consider thoughts, ideas, experiences that have touched one or all of us at some time or another. This circle is a container where we are free to express and explore ourselves and each other because we are in a safe and trusted place emotionally.
In today’s episode, we were prompted to explore how our lives would be different if we could imagine a particular scenario in our lives by asking ourselves the question, “What would happen if…?” Each of us was to fill in the blank and then express how life would change if the question were answered after being filled in.
In my own example, I responded by filling in the question in this way: “What would happen if I were able to temporarily set aside my limiting beliefs.” This “What if” was beneficial as it offered me an opportunity to unload the limiting beliefs long enough to emotionally explore how I would “feel” energetically without them.
“Our beliefs control our bodies, our minds, and thus our lives…”
― Bruce H. Lipton, The Biology of Belief: Unleashing the Power of Consciousness, Matter and Miracles
I mention this as an example of how asking this one question can change my whole world. This isn’t the only question I ask, but it is a terrific example of how the impact of self-examination can lead us to different perspectives, perspectives that can influence our thinking, behavior, and potentially, the subsequent manifestation of our material world.
The power of a question is a mystery and yet, according to Terry Heick in an article entitled “Why Questions Are More Important Than Answers” published in the newsletter “TeachThought” wrote,
“ Questioning is the art of learning. Learning to ask important questions is the best evidence of understanding there is, far surpassing the temporary endorphins of a correct ‘answer.’
And if changing beliefs and evidence of understanding weren’t enough, Albert Einstein said, “Question everything!”
Personally, asking questions, especially of myself, has provided me with great rewards. Moreover, it has kept me out of trouble more often than not. As a proponent of the art of self-examination asking questions is key to developing a life that matters…to me, and to all those whose curiosity keeps them going in this oft answer oriented world.
One last thought about my group today and the power of querying ourselves. I judge we are becoming better men or at least men who are more aware of their physical, emotional, and spiritual environments. I left our meeting knowing more about myself and the men that were in our circle today. Watching them and listening to them work through their own questions made me trust each one of them more because I saw accountability, emotional intelligence, vulnerability, and authenticity.
I also left the group asking myself, “What would happen if more people would ask the question, “What would happen if…?
Enjoy, and if you are inspired to fill in the blank and answer this question, I would enjoy hearing from you!